According to Hatha yoga, our mind, intellect and ego are operated at a gross and subtle level by what they call the three Gunas. These Gunas form together what constitute the world of illusion, also called Maya. They work in the physical, mental and emotional level and absolutely everything withing the kingdom of Maya is composed of these three Gunas.
But, how on earth has all this anything to do with dating?
I will go straight to the point. Or no so straight because it is quite a dense subject really...
To explain this part in the simplest possible way, the Gunas control our behavior. As plane as that. These qualities of nature are called: Satvic, Rajasic and Tamasic. One cannot exist without the other, but what differentiates one being from another lies in the predominance of the Gunas in each person at different times.
All you need to know here is that Satvic (white color), manifests in us as purity and knowledge. This is the one that makes us calm, wise, loving to all, you know, truly holy. So if we eat Satvic food, ej, vegetarian and with no much salt or spices, and we meditate, chant or pray, do selfless service, all that jazz, ... we are likely to also feel truly happy. In the Satvic world, ladies and gentlemen, we are fear-free and life is just wonderful, for even if we encounter problems, we gain a wisdom that allows us not to get entangled in them. Therefore boys and girls through this path, enlightening is nearly warrantied!
Then we have the Rajas (Red color, the passionate one!) that manifest in us as action and motion. If we eat Rajasic food, ej: processed products, spicy and salty, garlic and onions, and, we gossip, dance requeton (a kind of porn version of salsa) and flirt a bit more than necessary, then we are swimming in the Kigndom of Rajas! We are bound to feel pretty unbalanced really.
And then, the last one (you really do not want to be governed by this one!) are the Tamas. Whose color is obviously black! The Tamas are those manifested in Inertia and laziness. If you eat any animal, or if you eat old food then you are bound to feel lazy, negative or behave cruelly to others, etc...
And so, from the minute I chose to feed my credit card numbers into the dating site, would you like to guess which Guna governed me?
rajas Ra Jas RAAAAAAA - JA - S!!!!
I started swimming in the red sea of the Rajasic kingdom! A world full of lust and greed and excitement. The equivalent of having Las Vegas at your doorstep! I only had to log on and, there I was! ready to play: Tinker tailor, soldier sailor, rich man poor man, beggar man thief!!
All of a sudden at the bottom right side of my screen a twinkling light: Mislof requests a chat with you... And it was like this that I decided to go on my second date. We had talked over the phone several times and this man made me feel comfortable and safe. His voice was warm and gentle, and yet expelled an air of self confidence that inspired respect. I baptized him "Ascot boy"and when I first saw him there were no surprises, no fire works, no roller coasters, no adrenalin rushing through my whole body... But his smile and hug reassured me that the man behind the voice was one and the same. And so we went to a lovely Italian restaurant near Portobello Road were he devoured enough slices of Parma ham to feed a small village. Putting that aside, we had a lovely evening. And we both went home with the warm feeling of having meet someone special.
This is boring, you could say! It does not sound like enough material to write a blog. Oooooopppppsss!! Did I forget to mention that out of over 260 winks and I don't know how many e mails, I shorlisted 40 nice candidates? Yes 40. I know I know, greedy woman! Out of those I actually decided to meet five. Five during that same week that is!
Calm down, calm down! I only decided to do that because I was getting all confused with all these names and it was better to start the eliminating process as soon as possible by just arranging a nice lunch or even a coffee (for those I did not actually get to talk to over the phone).
I had also received an e mail from a man who wanted to explain to me why his profile showed no photograph and wondered whether I would consider to look at his picture on my private e mail. The reason he gave me made complete sense as his work is quite public. Like "Ascot boy", this man also lived quite a long way away from London and so we arranged to have lunch in a nice pub and then walk our dogs by the Thames in the country. I had actually told Ascot boy that I was going to meet this man the day after our lovely Italian dinner, and I told him that I was only doing it as a courtesy.
I felt that it was the least I could do specially when he confessed that he had only payed for a membership after he saw my picture and fell the urge to contact me.
He was older than my preference and so I kind of thought that it would be easy to tick him off my list quite easily. That afternoon the last thing I was expecting happened: I really liked him too!
Now I was swimming not in rajasic waters but in deep, deep deeeep s...t!
It never occurred to me that these dates were going to go wrong because they went both too well!
And so, quite a horrible feeling inundated my body and soul for the next few hours, the next few days... Uncertainty, the biggest cause of stress a human being can face...
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